We all know that a lot of touch we engage in as adults is sexual but what about sensual touch? We often lose sight of the sensual in our quest for the sexual and when we do, we give up a big part of the fun and thrill that we once found in our early relationships. So what's the difference?
Many people in long-term relationships tend to have a standard "formula" to their love making. They have long since learned what their lover likes and what "works" toward reaching climax and rarely venture outside of those normal boundaries. But when we're with a new lover, we don't know what their boundaries are, what will ilicit a response, where their errogenous zones are so we explore each part of our new love. We touch and taste slowly to find the areas that are most exciting and although we may be caught up in a rush of passion and lust, we have no assurance that our explorations are going to lead to anything more. We're on untested ground and we're just enjoying the journey.
When you're with your mate, try to embody that sensation of new love again. Embrace, kiss, touch, taste and explore as though you have no expectations and discover what I like to call the "art of the long, slow tease." See if using your sense of sensuality doesn't make a marked improvement on your sexuality.
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