Last post, I talked about the difficulty in keeping a relationship going when you've been with the same person for a long time. We tend to take them for granted, we think they already “know” that we love them, and we prioritize jobs and other obligations above our sex lives. But we've got to stop all that and OPEN UP to them. We'll get the flames of love stoked again and find more heat than you even remember. Let's get back to how to do that.
Let go of any hang-ups you might have about your body and get naked together with all the lights on! If you can't accept your body, you can unwittingly create barriers to openness and intimacy with your partner. This is especially true for women. We're often so critical of ourselves -- making constant mental comparisons to media images. But while you're making excuses to avoid showing your flaws, they are thinking you just don't want to be with them. Allowing your partner to see your body naked in the light shows your openness in a way words could never convey. And there isn't any sensation more sensual than the feeling of skin on skin. Even if you're not having sex, just lying together in the raw and talking can be an amazing experience. Similar to the discussion about fantasies, never ridicule or mock your partner and their flaws. Concentrate on their positive traits and I'll bet you'll hear them talking about yours.
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